🎬 Videos(17)
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RfRx - Religious Trauma: The Negative Impacts of Purity Culture w/ Christy Lanterman, LPC
Recovering from Religion
In the 1980's and 90's, sexual "purity" became a major focus in sectors of Christian culture within the United States. This movement, now referred to as "purity culture," had detrimental effects, including stunted LGBTQI+ identity exploration, dissociation from one's body, under-reported sexual assaults, and relationship struggles. Join us as we explore specific concepts taught within purity culture, its impacts & developmental trauma, as well as tips and resources for identifying the trauma in oneself and working through it. Content warning: This discussion will have a lot of heteronormitive language and heavy gendered language. We understand that can be triggering & stressful, but know it's intentional because it's a part of breaking down the core concepts of purity culture. This discussion was held in the beginning of Pride Month and purity culture is especially damaging to the LGBTQ+ community.
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RfRx - Sexual Integrity with Dr. Steven Davidson, PhD, LCSW
Recovering from Religion
In this RfRx session we will discover that sexual integrity is simply about being yourself and getting honest with yourself and others about who you are as a sexual being. We will also discuss how to integrate, instead of compartmentalize sexuality.
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Dr. Marty Klein: Sexual Intelligence--10 Things Humanists Need to Know About Sex
American Humanist Association
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RfRx - The Science of Sex with Dr. Darrel Ray
Recovering from Religion
Religions teach nothing about actual sexuality, biology and why our bodies work as they do. In this talk Dr. Ray will be discussing some basic facts about sex, evolution and human sexuality, like why is the penis shaped as it is? What is it with all those sperm males produce? What is sexual dimorphism? Are we chimps, gorillas or bonobos? We breed cows, chickens and other animals, could we be breeding ourselves as well? Learning the science of sex can help you make your own decisions about your sexuality and help you throw away the 3,000 year old ideas found in religious indoctrination.
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RfRx - Sexual Integrity: Finding the Courage to Be Yourself with Dr Steven Davidson, LCSW
Recovering from Religion
We are innately sexual creatures. What should come naturally gets mutilated and destroyed by shame, fear, and ignorance. We crave emotional intimacy, yet dare to risk letting others know who we really are. In this RfRx discussion, Dr Steven Davidson will discuss why we get trapped in denying our sexuality and how we can overcome it and be that much closer to becoming our true selves.
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RfRx - The Myth of Sex Addiction with Dr. Darrel Ray
Recovering from Religion
The idea of sex addiction is a religious notion at its root. Since 1983 religions have used the idea of sex addiction as a tool of Purity Culture. In this discussion, Dr Darrel Ray joins us once again to talk about the roots of the concept of sex addiction and how it affects you and our entire culture. This does not mean people don't have concerns and problems with their sexual behavior, but we need to treat the real issues NOT an imaginary problem based in religious ideology. Dr Darrel Ray is the Founder & President of Recovering from Religion. He has been a psychologist for over thirty years and is the author of four books: including "The God Virus-How Religion Infects Our Lives and Culture" and "Sex and God-How Religion Distorts Sexuality". Dr. Ray has been a student of religion most of his life and holds a Masters Degree in religion as well as a Bachelor's Degree in Sociology/Anthropology with a Doctorate in Psychology.
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Nina Dølvik Brochmann and Ellen Støkken Dahl: The virginity fraud
Nina Dølvik Brochmann and Ellen Støkken Dahl
The hymen is still the most misunderstood part of the female body. Nina Dølvik Brochmann and Ellen Støkken Dahl share their mission to empower young people through better sex education, debunking the popular (and harmful) myths we're told about female virginity and the hymen.
📄 Articles(18)
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Purity Culture Dropout
Erica Smith
Purity Culture Dropout ™️ is a six session intensive sexuality education and coaching program for folks who were raised in purity culture and who are seeking the queer inclusive, shame free, trauma informed, medically accurate, and comprehensive sex education they need. The program consists of intensive one-on-one work with me, individualized sex education learning assignments, and group support.
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Sexual Reclamation Project
Dr. Tina Schermer
The Sexual Reclamation Project is a three-part powerful narrative project that will help you see in black and white just how much sexual shame you absorbed from your family of origin during your childhood. It will make clear your sexual legacy as it currently sits within your body/mind.
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Greta Christina's Blog - Atheism, sex, politics, dreams, and whatever.
Greta Christina
Atheism, sex, politics, dreams, and whatever.
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The Abstinence Project
The Abstinence Project
exposing shame-based abstinence-only sex education for the harm it causes on adult sexual development.
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So Are We Nutting This November or Not?
InsideHook
An annual male-abstinence challenge is now under siege from the upstart "Yes Nut" movement. We'll explain.
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Virgin Nation
Sara Moslener
First taking hold of the American cultural imagination in the 1990s, the sexual purity movement of contemporary evangelicalism has since received considerable attention from a wide range of media outlets, religious leaders, and feminist critics.
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Madonna–whore complex
Wikipedia
In psychoanalytic literature, a Madonna–whore complex is the inability to maintain sexual arousal within a committed, loving relationship.
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Sexual Interest Checklist
Asking For What You Want
This checklist is intended to give some help to couples just starting out talking about sex, whether they're already sexually active or not. We've taken our cues from the issues and questions that often come up in this community, and hope you'll find it a useful tool.
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Porn for Women: 15 Feminist Porn Sites You'll Really, Really Enjoy
Suzannah Weiss and Irina Gonzalez - Glamour
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Planned Parenthood
Ask us anything. Seriously. Between our trained sexual health educators or chat bot, we can answer your questions about your sexual health whenever you have them. And they are free and confidential.
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Euki
Euki: A sexual health app that adapts to YOU. Euki helps you get answers that you can trust without making assumptions about who you are, what you do or don't already know, or how you identify.
📚 Books(12)
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Damaged Goods Perspectives Christian Purity
Dianna Anderson
Progressive Christian Dianna Anderson offers a fresh approach to the conversation about purity culture, She will revolutionize the way you think about sex, abstinence, politics, and faith.
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Expose Yourself: How to Take Risks, Question Everything, and Find Yourself
Erin Louis
After her first two books about the stripper world and her memoirs, Erin Louis offers us her new self-help book promoting critical thinking and self-confidence through humor, challenging insights, and her own true stories. A cross between "Fifty Shades of Grey" and "The God Delusion", Ms Louis titillates as she enlightens readers. You will learn how to find the freedom to be yourself, find confidence to take risks, and change your life. This book will show you how. As she says, you don't even have to get naked to do it, she's done that for you.
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Sex & God: How Religion Distorts Sexuality
Darrel Ray
Why are all the major religions consumed with sex? What makes sex so important, whether Buddhism or Islam, Christianity or Mormonism? What is the impact of religion on human sexuality? This book explores this and more.
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The Myth of Sex Addiction
David J. Ley
The media today is filled with powerful men in trouble for their sexual behaviors, and invariably, they are diagnosed as sexual addicts. Since Adam first hid his nakedness from God and pointed the finger at Eve, men have struggled to take responsibility for their sexuality. Over the past three decades, these behaviors have come to reflect not a moral failing, but instead, evidence of an ill-defined disease, that of "sexual addiction." The concept of sexual addiction is a controversial one because it is based on questionable research and subjective moral judgments. Labeling these behaviors as sex addiction asserts a false, dangerous myth that undermines personal responsibility...
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How to think More About Sex
Alain de Botton
Covering such topics as adultery, lust, pornography and impotence, Alain de Botton argues that 21st century sex will always be a balancing act of trust versus risk, and of primal desire versus studied civility. By examining sex from a subjective perspective, he uncovers new ideas on how we can achieve that balance.
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The Myth of Monogamy: Fidelity and Infidelity in Animals and People
David Philip Barash, Judith Eve Lipton
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Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships
Tristan Taormino
Relationship expert and bestselling author Tristan Taormino offers a bold new strategy for creating loving, lasting relationships. Drawing on in-depth interviews with over a hundred women and men, Opening Up explores the real-life benefits and challenges of all styles of open relationships -- from partnered non-monogamy to solo polyamory. With her refreshingly down-to-earth style and sharp wit, Taormino offers solutions for making an open relationship work, including tips on dealing with jealousy, negotiating boundaries, finding community, parenting and time management. Opening Up will change the way you think about intimacy.
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Sex Outside the Lines: Authentic Sexuality in a Sexually Dysfunctional Culture
Chris Donaghue
In The New Sex, Dr. Chris Donaghue describes the holes in society's definition of "normal," taking a sharp eye to institutions such as marriage, cheating, virginity, identity, and sexual orientation. He also examines all the ways that accepting society's "truths" have led to the demise of long-term relationships and sexual pleasure. All of this misinformation is showing up in your bedroom and preventing you from having the sex life you're entitled to.
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Guide to Getting it On
Paul Joannides
This guide replaces taboos with techniques and provides safe, practical advice for improving your sexual relationships. It all comes down to communication and this is one book that has no problem with telling it how it is.
🎙️ Podcasts(6)
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Heauxly Coitus on Apple Podcasts
To be a heaux is to engage in consensual sex, be kind to yourself and partner(s), creative, fully embodied, unapologetic, powerful, and free. A former virgin of 31 years and now heaux of 3, Ms. Heauxly Coitus (HC) loves talking to people who are coming to terms with their journey of sex, fu€king, Tinder dates, loving their bodies, unlearning from harmful teaching and purity culture, developing her sexual ethic, (re)claiming their sexual agency, and always in search of great sex (or not). Come share your heaux story on the pod and join the Heaux Revolution!
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Ep. 11 Dr. Darrel Ray on BDSM: Origins of Kink, Catharsis, and Safety Protocols (PT 4)
The PsycHoe Podcast
Dr. Ray and I discuss a beautiful piece of our lives that we both share. Coming from wildly different backgrounds and generations, we find a middle ground as it...
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Mild at Heart: Love, Sex, and Masculinity After Purity Culture: Intro and Ep. 1 of 8 on Apple Podcasts
Straight White American Jesus
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🏢 Organizations(2)
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Planned Parenthood
Planned Parenthood Federation of America is a nonprofit organization that provides sexual health care in the United States and globally.
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Debunking Desire
Our goal for #DebunkingDesire is to share evidence-based information about low sexual desire in women to create and amplify lasting dialogues with women, their partners, their health care providers, and the media.
📁 Other Resources(4)
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sexplanations
YouTube Channel
Sexplanations is sexedutainment for the universe hosted by Dr. Lindsey Doe. The show is designed around the 4 minutes model of YouTube EDU to share incredible knowledge while inspiring the audience to stay curious. The most viewed episode is Vagina Toys, followed Pelvic Exam, Anal Sex, Masturbation, and Consent. The channel has covered over 365 topics and has reached over 190 nations. It's in its seventh year and continuing shame-free, comprehensive efforts to educate on everything sex. Stay curious!
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Shan BOODY
YouTube Channel
The official YouTube channel of sexologist, intimacy expert and author Shan Boodram. It's practical, factual, and sometimes dreadful information on what it means to be falling in love and being sexual in today's easy-access culture. Sex, love, relationship and occasionally lifestyle channel